FW: FW: [plz read complete mail if u think i care for u] 10 Commandments

 

 

From: Manchukonda, Srikanth
Sent: Wednesday, March 27, 2013 11:17 AM
Subject: FW: [plz read complete mail if u think i care for u] 10 Commandments

 

10 Commandmen​ts

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too
often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we
have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way,
our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered
to the right direction, our direction. This thinking
denies the existence of individuality and consequently
the existence of God. God has created each one of us
in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act
in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way
they do because God within them prompts them that way.
There is God to look after everything. Why are you
bothered? Mind your own business and you will keep
Your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget.

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We
often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the
person who insults us or harms us. We nurture
grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood
pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but
nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly
remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Believe in
the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him
judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too
short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and
march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition.

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom
praise anybody without selfish motives. They may
praise you today because you are in power, but no
sooner than you are powerless; they will forget your
achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why
do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their
recognition? Their recognition is not worth the
aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely
and leave the rest to God.

4. Do Not Be Jealous.

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our
peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your
colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get
promotions; you do not. You started a business several
years ago, but you are not as successful as your
neighbor whose business is only one year old. There
are several examples like these in everyday life.
Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life
is shaped by his or her previous Karma, which has now
become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich,
nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so
destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be
gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy
will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your
peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment.

If you try to change the environment single-handedly,
the chances are you will fail. Instead, change
yourself to suit your environment. As you do this,
even the environment, which has been unfriendly to
you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and
harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured.

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an
advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences,
ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond
our control. If we cannot control them or change them,
we must learn to put up with these things. We must
learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, "God wills
it so, so be it." God's plan is beyond our
comprehension. Believe in it and you will gain in
terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew.

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often
tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable
of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know
your limitations. Why take on additional loads that
may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind
by expanding your external activities. Reduce your
material engagements and spend time in prayer,
introspection and meditation. This will reduce those
thoughts in your mind that make you restless.
Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly.

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing
thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind.
Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate
earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will
tend to become peaceful during the remaining
twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be
easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit
by gradually increasing the period of daily mediation.
You may think that this will interfere with your daily
work. On the contrary, this will increase your
efficiency and you will be able to produce better
results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant.

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil
actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind
occupied in something positive, something worthwhile.
Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your
interest. You must decide what you value more: money
or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or
temple work, may not always earn you more money, but
you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement.
Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself
in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret.

Do not waste time in protracted wondering "Should I or
shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be
wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never
plan enough because you can never anticipate all
future happenings. Always remember, God has His own
plan, too for you. Value your time and do the things
that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail
the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and
succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will
lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not
brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened
was destined to happen only that way. Take it as the
Will of God. You do not have the power to alter the
course of God's Will. Why cry over spilt milk?

 

9 Ways to Defeat Stress

http://www.indiatimes.com/lifestyle/health-and-fitness/9-ways-to-defeat-stress-60059.html

 

Life in the modern workplace is full of stress.

 

The difference between those who are successful and those who aren't is not whether or not you suffer from stress, but how you deal with it when you do. 

 

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. Motivational psychologist and author, 'Succeed' and "Nine Things Successful People Do Differently" has suggested nine scientifically proven strategies for defeating stress whenever it strikes, according to the Huffintonpost. 

 

Have self-compassion, she says. Self-compassion is, in essence, cutting yourself some slack. It's being willing to look at your mistakes or failures with kindness and understanding -- without harsh criticism or defensiveness. 

 

A dose of self-compassion when things are at their most difficult can reduce your stress and improve your performance by making it easier for you to learn from your mistake, she suggested. 

 

Second she suggests people to think about the "big picture" - Thinking big picture about the work you do can be very energizing in the face of stress and challenge, because you are linking one particular, often small action to a greater meaning or purpose. 

 

So when staying that extra hour at work at the end of an exhausting day is thought of as "helping my career" rather than "answering emails for 60. 

 

She asks people to rely on routines - Having to make so many decisions is a powerful and pervasive cause of stress. Every time you make a decision-- you create a state of mental tension that is, in fact, stressful. 

 

The solution is to reduce the number of decisions you need to make, by utilizing routines. Have a routine for preparing for your day in the morning, and packing up to go home at night. Simple routines can dramatically reduce your experience of stress, she said. 

 

Another simple way is to take five (or 10) minutes to do something you find interesting. She points out to recent research that showed that interest doesn't just keep you going despite fatigue, it actually replenishes your energy. And then that replenished energy flows into whatever you do next. 

 

Add where and when to your to-do list, she noted. 

 

Nearly 200 studies, on everything from diet and exercise to negotiation and time management, have shown that deciding in advance when and where you will complete a task can double or triple your chances of actually doing it, she said. 

 

Halvorson also ask workers to use if-thens for positive self-talk. Recent studies show that if-then plans can help us to control our emotional responses to situations in which we feel fear, sadness, fatigue, self-doubt, or even disgust. 

 

Simply decide what kind of response you would like to have instead of feeling stress, and make a plan that links your desired response to the situations that tend to raise your blood pressure, she asserted. 

 

Workers should see their work in terms of progress, not perfection, according to Halvorson. 

 

When you think about what you are doing in terms of learning and improving, accepting that you may make some mistakes along the way, you experience far less stress, and you stay motivated despite the setbacks that might occur, she said. 

 

Or think about the progress that you've already made - It can be enormously helpful to take a moment and reflect on what you've accomplished so far before turning your attention to the challenges that remain ahead, she stated. 

 

Know whether optimism or defensive pessimism works for you, she said. 

 

Some people think of their jobs as opportunities for achievement and accomplishment- they have what psychologists call a promotion focus. 

 

For others, doing a job well is about security, about not losing the positions they've worked so hard for. This prevention focus places the emphasis on avoiding danger, fulfilling responsibilities, and doing what feel you ought to do, she said. 

 

Promotion motivation feels like eagerness- the desire to really go for it- and this eagerness is sustained and enhanced by optimism. Believing that everything is going to work out great is essential for promotion-focused performance, she explained. 

 

Prevention motivation, on the other hand, feels like vigilance- the need to keep danger at bay -- and it is sustained not by optimism, but by a kind of defensive pessimism. In other words, the prevention-minded actually work best when they think about what might go wrong, and what they can do to keep that from happening, she added.